Today I have been in a horrible mood because of yesterday and having to cook all day in the heat (unappreciated) and something else perpy. I was going nuts when I decided to Google my sister AGAIN. I am sorry to admit I sort of “stalk” her online to find out what’s going on with her since she does not talk to me. For once, I hit ‘pay dirt”. I found a short blog from her about some HEART SURGERY she had 2 years ago. I wrote the post To my Estranged Sister right around that time while she was miserable and recovering from surgery! There is something psychic or spiritual about that–I mean, thinking of her right after she had surgery!
Turns out, she has had heart disease for years! It’s related to her brush with Cancer back in the 1980’s! I never knew. Her aortic valve had been closing and she needed a transplanted aortic valve from a cow! That was major major surgery, even more than the abdominal surgery I had in 2010! She was in ICU and they sent me to the ward after the operation!
She spent a week? in the hospital, maybe more, but when she came out started to exercise right away even though she barely could! Her list of symptoms put me to shame! My stomach shit gave me gas attacks and bad heartburn, etc and lower lung function, but, she had been going downhill for years!
Her last post is 2 weeks? post op and she had BURNING in her chest! My incision after the first week or so mainly itched! Same operation stuff, though. Can’t sit, can’t stand, can’t lie down. I remember those long nights listening to Dr. Laura and to Coast to Coast until I finally fell asleep sitting up against the bed board.
I am assuming that she is recovered now but wonder how long her lifespan is with a broken heart. I do wish she would call or write. I’m afraid one day I’ll discover she died an early death! She will be 50 next year which is excellent since I did not think she would even live until 21 after she had Cancer at 19!!
My eldest nephew will graduate High School next year as well. When she called me the morning of our Father’s funeral she acted crabby and you know…I had no idea she might have been feeling bad. I always thought she came away from her Cancer in good health. I have not set eyes on her in 12 1/2 years, but, got a pic of her (in a hospital bed!) She looked like I did a few years ago! We could pass as twins! I’m fatter and have more wrinkles now, however than she did in that pic, but, I saw myself and our mother looking back at me on that page!
She looked the way I looked at 42 or so! OK 35, ya’ll. And she was 46! Better skin care products and probably not as much junk food. I managed to see a sort of blurry pic of her at a picnic with her husband and one nephew. She was wearing glasses.
I sort of feel bad about playing the “stalker” online but she is my only sister. I have no one else. Our parents are dead and my Aunts and Uncles are dead and I have no contact with cousins. Please, please, please N. would you call me?